Losing erection during sex

[Cooper22]

Hi,

I am 22 years old and I have no trouble getting an erection during masturbation or foreplay. I can get really hard. However during sex I cannot maintain a really hard erection as I do during foreplay and masturbation. At some point I feel getting softer. Also sex does not feel very stimulating to my *****. I feel that I would never reach an ****** no matter how long I continue. Partner seems to be enjoying it though. And if I attempt to stop, to change position or because ***** was accidentally removed my erection is easily lost and without removing the condom it is hard to get it back.

I am really confused cause I know there is nothing wrong with me physically and mentally. I am a relaxed type of guy. no worries. i enjoy my life. I dont understand this.

Any advice and help is welcomed.

Thank you!

Cooper22

[Unregistered]

well, im not exactly sure what to tell you, im in need of help for the same exact problem though. im 20 and im excellent physical condition. i also eat very healthy and i still can't seem to fix this. i think part of the problem is definately psychological and you kinda have to work your way through that part, you know the one where if you think for even a second that you're going down, you instantly go down? i just can't seem to get past it i guess. i mean i don't have the problem every time but its almost like 1 out of every 3 or 4. its just enough to make me frusterated with myself and i wonder if there is anything else that can be done about it, any info would be helpful. i did read a thing about strengthening the pc muscle, but im not certain how effective that might be

[Unregistered]

Does anyone know if this is something that happens to alot of people?

Copper22

[RandomStudent]

Hi, yeah I'm 20 and getting pretty much exactly the same problem. I'm fine masturbating and getting an erection during foreplay, but when the time comes for penetration, it just drops. And yeah, just thinking about it for a second can cause it too.

I know what you mean about fustrating, it's getting to be a serious problem for my partner and I. I feel relaxed, often more so than her, and we can mess about fine. Any help/suggestions would definately be appreciated, if it works for you guys, it'd probably work for me,

Thanks,

RandomStudent

[acuann]

Okay, to all the relaxed dudes out there - do you smoke pot? Marjuana use totally causes impotence and "soft" erections. If you stop smoking and take extra vit C you should not have anymore problems...
Just a thought.
DOM

[masonpride]

You all are in too of a hurry love the ***** take your time get you a shot of alcohol , try listening to music , love the women with all you got. for get about sports and any other activities think about stroking the ***** slowly but surely....main thing is to relax and enjoy no hurries....

[Unregistered]

Why don't you just go to your doctor and get some medications for it???

[h2867]

I have some ideas, but I don't know which could help you. Did you eat shortly before having intercourse and had a lot of fat? Eat lean and have sex after 3 hours or so if possible. Minimize caffiene and stress. Obtain L-arginine 500mg and take on an empty stomach ideally, take 2-3 a day max, don't take if you have hepies.


I hope this helps...

[h2867]

Hey Cooper22,

I had some another thoughts. Your comment "I would never reach an ****** no matter how long I continue..." made me wonder if you are circumisized and if intercourse with a condom is just not giving you enough feeling. Have you tried putting some lube on the inside of the condom and or using the thinner type? Maybe you can also ask your girl to try contracting on you during intercourse. It also seems the wetter the better, to obtain the best feelings, do you think more lube might help?

Hope one of these ideas help, please let us know....

[Unregistered]

This is quite funny, i have similar problems, i think the PC muscle thing might be a good idea and im sure it's psychological, so it is about gradually getting used to the idea that penetration is the way you get off because our minds are so used to the idea that masturbation/foreplay get's us off, that something that is usually less sensitive to the ***** is not perceived as pleasurable.

Ergo, it is about re-programming your mind to think differently about sex.